July 29, 2021

27 thoughts on “Sickness or Longevity having close association to a person’s character and the exercise he or she does! (Part 2)

  1. "A merry heart does good, like medicine. But a broken spirit dries the bones." – Proverb 17:22

    1. Hi Yaruzi,

      I read about your story and know via religious means u had enlightened and can already see the light ahead.

      I am happy for you. I know u will grow stronger and wiser each day!

      For wisdom is often truly misunderstood by so many people in today's society!

    2. Rolf,

      "Lest not forget, I am not very old (like 60s?), and furthermore not very rich and not very successful."

      Frequently "not" very successful can be a blessing in disguise.

  2. Anything in life can be fatal. Even common flu when younger or older will make that different; but we tend to forget we are getting older and weaker with each passing day.

    1. Hi CW,


      These r different category. Of course death cause by instant virus attack or accidental which most times are inevitable. But look at the percentage compare to death cause by illness.

      What I aforesaid was in fact said n concur by my ex entrepreneur boss in his 60s who seen so much in life, travelled widely, was already pronounced dead by doctor with heart problem (later survived not seeing doctor), go thru near bankruptcy 3 times with him as sole bread winner and was a man who use to have high ego and self esteem. Eventually he got into enlightenment and his entire life changed!

      Today, he truly work to help only. Unlike human nature septics who think it's always for money or self interest! 🙂

      Ten years past in his 60s, he is much more stronger and more energetic TODAY than 10 yrs ago when I use to work with him. I swear it's true and nothing but true!

      While another boss of mine after retiring and still thinking of money and thinking of do one more successful business in his lifetime is complaining age is catching up… Bla Bla Bla.

      Therefore I tend not to agree with u with not just these two cases but many I had seen in other people also.

      Me and him were discussing one day about the character illness and we both agreed that the more successful a man is, or if he think he is, the more difficult to convince that man to change. And almost not possible and better to leave it to them to realise it later thru their experience!

      Imagine I know Kishore and have tell him earlier that the way he push himself in jogging is not good. Will he listen to me? of course not, bcos he is always right in his own way! He will say "who r u small fry with so little experience in life to advise me on that." Even if my ex-boss told him, he will also not listen.

      I myself had seen the same happening within my peer.

      Good thing for me is today I will not be hinder by my male ego anymore if it makes sense.

      And what I am saying in the above article is truly from the bottom of my heart from things my ex boss and me truly can see. Whether it helps now or later, it does not matter, but at least what I am sharing now is Non Mihi Solum and that is sufficient to make me very happy!

      Hope one day this article will be useful to u or at least make u realise at least Rolf had said that before. But not now, not to worry!


  3. My ex boss also collapsed and died of stroke at age of 42 during their weekly management meeting. He overworked. His death was wake up call to those around him. Co-incidentally two of those directors in that meeting retired before 60 few years later. Seeing with their own eyes on colleague dropping dead in front of them might be scary and lasting.

    1. Yes incredible isn't it! Even touchwood if I have illness nowadays, I will never want or by all means do my every part to not have an illness that is work or money-inflicted!


      Maybe my illness is because kena 气死 by my wife or kids! hahhaha….At least more worth it than cause by work!

    2. Hi Createwealth8888,

      Your comment made me very worried for Singapore today. I think in the coming general elections, our PM Lee will be getting lots of requests for early retirement from our Ministers. It is selfish of me to think this way but … I think the least some of the more critical Singaporeans can do is to show more respect to our Ministers next time when they make comments online.

      I wish Mr Heng Swee Keat a speedy and full recovery so that he can at least have the good health to enjoy life. Good men should have a good ending.

  4. Rolf,

    "Smart" and "successful" people often subscribe to: If I think I can, I can!

    Which works superbly well when they are in their prime. But they forget there's such a thing called wear and tear 🙁

    Funny how the Chinese holistic way to longevity (养生) is the opposite:

    Meditation (stay still)

    Slow walks (we don't race; just walk leisurely)

    Taiji (How's that for non-strenuous to joints?)

    Tonics (Years to see effect; not magic pill)

    Have you noticed the paintings of immortals and monks in Chinese paintings show lots of paunches?


    1. Hi Jared,

      I am first to vote agreement that does not mean ur body is fat or skinny u cannot have healthy life.

      But it's the radiance shown in the face, speech or even smiles and laugthers that tell more not just the body!

  5. Hi rolf
    I spend many years to understand everything is destined, eg whether you will be rich or not, whether you sick or not or when you die. Whom you will meet in your life etc.

    Everything is destined, by fate.

    So 既来之,则安之

    Have a peace in mind, then you will be more happier and live more meaningful.

    1. Hi Yeh,

      Hope u r feeling better. U know my style Lar.. always more direct. I am having a different view.

      I do not believe life are mostly destined or fated. I believe 人定胜天 as long as we are willing to take steps to initiate the change, and first the change has to start with "us"!

      Dreams are important, but I am seeing in Sg we are lacking it.

      Even as I am born not physically as strong and thin, the later years still can make the difference! Maybe Nick Vujicic can have a more convincing speech on this thing called "destined and fated!"

      But I do agree that if we have a peaceful mind, while we are pursuing our dreams, then our live can be more meaningful.

      Most important thing I kind of realise in life to be able to enlighten is we should never work just for ourselves only! If in our lifetime we can help many many people around us to lead better life, then I am sure we can conquer a lot!

      Of course, this philosophy applies to me and it does not mean it is workable for others! 🙂

  6. My late FIL was heavy smoker and drinker. Eat unhealthy oil and salty food and yet die at age of 93. He ran a small shop selling mainly Chinese wedding related stuff, daily household items and Big Sweep tickets. His stress level is pretty slow. Smoke and drink while waiting for customers to buy then come and buy. 🙂

    Stress at work is the potential source of many illnesses. Headache, heartache, tua tulan then pressure and temperature rising higher

    1. Ya lo. My Friend died at age 21 due to Lung cancer. No smoke and his room( hostel) used to be vey clean.

      I thought I will be the one die earlier age among my group of friends. Who knows after so many years I am still kicking:)

    2. Hi CW,

      Wow ur FIL is good. I am partially saying yes because my auntie is late 80s, smoking since 12 till today. Always sleep late and does not eat so healthy! Still very active and can go traveling in Taiwan alone!

      The difference is unlike ur FIL, her stress level is very high.

      Her husband (my uncle) kena stroke and was wheel chaired for like 15-20 yrs and was so bad tempered. She have to tahan him and clean him for so many years!

      She had to work as a cleaners for multiple offices. Her children (my cousin) are all not married eldest being early 60s. All have very low income and some even up to 50s still depend on my auntie. My smaller uncle also faced with loan shark problem in earlier years when my auntie got to settle for him using all her savings!

      My auntie had two adopted kids because others does not want to raise them in the 50s and 60s. but being kind hearted, she does not mind to help. Her adopted kids did well in life and love her a lot.

      To me, my auntie is a superwoman!

      So in this aspect despite my auntie life so tough, and so stressful, she always approached life positively! Today her adopted kids and me and my siblings doted my auntie like how she doted my father when my father still alive.

      The only reason I can think of my auntie's longer ivory is her positive approach in life and how she unselfishly help people around her, despite her own problems. she is always happy! I love her also!

      So maybe sometimes in life, we cannot everyday only think about ourself only. Guess I am sad that people are getting more and more selfish as time advances.

  7. From Early Retirement Extreme.
    The first person to run marathon passed away.
    Only slaves work but owners skive.

  8. Hi Blanc,

    Haha.. yes indeed as what was written in history that the person after running marathon died!

  9. Hi Rolf,

    Everything in moderation 就好. In my previous job, always piah-piah-piah and OT. "Good pay" but common to have gastric-related issues and chest tightness : obvious signs that all is not right.

    After a job change, all the ailments are gone! Miracle! Oh well, apart from feeling sleepy all the time LOL. I think my current job is not challenging enough. As I said, everything in moderation, always. Either end of the spectrum isn't good.

    1. Hi Kevin,

      "Everything in moderation" or "balance" is my all time favorite phrase. So simple to understand but yet so difficult to apply in life for many.

      Gastric-related problems are character-work inflicted. No doubt.

      Happy that is solved for u.

      I suffered from gastric problems for ages and eventually hospitalized too.

  10. Hi Rolf,

    Are you an alumni of AJC? Your motto seems to suggest that. I'm not although I was there for a few months. I have people close to me who was from there.

    1. It is a good motto to live by. When a person starts living for others, he will find people around him start living for him as well.

      Non Mihi Solum is not just being self-less, it makes a lot of sense by creating win-win situations (assuming the network of people around are the decent type who remember kindness). 我为人人,人人为我。

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